When I first read the four agreements it seemed that it was these kinds of a simple established of rules to stay by. I wondered why absolutely everyone didn’t reside by these rules and why a person did not publish these guidelines sooner. Following doing work with these policies I located how immensely difficult they actually had been to apply. Some were tougher than other folks and based on who you are different policies will be harder to use.
I have never ever regarded myself to be a liar, other than the small white lies that are informed in hopes of sparing someone’s emotions. You will uncover that specific elements are so built-in into your life that they are tough to stop.
The Four Agreements are:
Be Impeccable with your Word: Talk with integrity. Say only what you mean. Steer clear of utilizing the Word to converse in opposition to yourself or to gossip about other people. Use the energy of your Term in the direction of fact and adore.
So a lot of of us easily set ourselves down or other individuals down. It is commonplace to criticize other folks whether or not it is “that man or woman is a jerk” or a random comment on someone’s seems. It is virtually impossible to speak with a family member about the daily functions with no gossiping or criticizing a person. We all have our thoughts and we do not wait to voice them. If we shell out consideration to our phrases it is attainable above time to right this actions.
Don’t Get Anything at all Individually
Nothing other people do is because of you. What other individuals say and do is a projection of their own reality, their possess dream. When you are immune to the thoughts and steps of other individuals, you will not be the sufferer of pointless suffering.
It is so effortless to get offense when conversing to men and women. Because most individuals are not working towards currently being impeccable with their word as in the very first settlement they are typically supplying their opinion about you or a person else. If a person is getting a negative working day and you experience them in your day they will undoubtedly say one thing to upset you. If you understand that it is their truth and not yours requires it personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Locate the bravery to ask questions and to express what you actually want. Connect with other individuals as obviously as you can to avoid misunderstandings, unhappiness and drama. With just this 1 agreement, you can entirely remodel your existence.
This is possibly the toughest of the 4 agreements to enact. When you actively consider to end assuming you will see that a large portion of your working day is put in assuming. You suppose what other folks are contemplating or how they will react to a particular situation. In numerous circumstances we give ourselves stress over assuming how a circumstance will enjoy out. When we really are associated with the predicament we frequently find that all of the anxiousness was for practically nothing. In many instances we find that things really went really easily. Picture how much greater we would come to feel is we were to stop assuming. Just getting activities as they occur and end taking part in out the eventualities ahead of time. The worst element of this is that we appear to engage in out the worst scenarios the most.
Always Do Your Best
Your ideal is heading to modify from minute to second it will be various when you are healthier as opposed to sick. Underneath any circumstance, merely do your ideal and you will stay away from self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret?
Your very best and my very best are likely to be diverse in any offered predicament. If you make every energy in any presented circumstance to do your best then you can constantly really feel excellent about it. Soon after all you cannot count on to do far better than your very best.
These 4 agreements provide a basic way to make your lifestyle much better. They do however just take some energy to actually enact them. It will take getting acutely aware of them in your working day to working day dwelling to make the changes essential. You will locate that your life will go smoother by continuing to use these agreements on a day to working day foundation.
I have never ever regarded myself to be a liar, other than the small white lies that are informed in hopes of sparing someone’s emotions. You will uncover that specific elements are so built-in into your life that they are tough to stop.
The Four Agreements are:
Be Impeccable with your Word: Talk with integrity. Say only what you mean. Steer clear of utilizing the Word to converse in opposition to yourself or to gossip about other people. Use the energy of your Term in the direction of fact and adore.
So a lot of of us easily set ourselves down or other individuals down. It is commonplace to criticize other folks whether or not it is “that man or woman is a jerk” or a random comment on someone’s seems. It is virtually impossible to speak with a family member about the daily functions with no gossiping or criticizing a person. We all have our thoughts and we do not wait to voice them. If we shell out consideration to our phrases it is attainable above time to right this actions.
Don’t Get Anything at all Individually
Nothing other people do is because of you. What other individuals say and do is a projection of their own reality, their possess dream. When you are immune to the thoughts and steps of other individuals, you will not be the sufferer of pointless suffering.
It is so effortless to get offense when conversing to men and women. Because most individuals are not working towards currently being impeccable with their word as in the very first settlement they are typically supplying their opinion about you or a person else. If a person is getting a negative working day and you experience them in your day they will undoubtedly say one thing to upset you. If you understand that it is their truth and not yours requires it personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Locate the bravery to ask questions and to express what you actually want. Connect with other individuals as obviously as you can to avoid misunderstandings, unhappiness and drama. With just this 1 agreement, you can entirely remodel your existence.
This is possibly the toughest of the 4 agreements to enact. When you actively consider to end assuming you will see that a large portion of your working day is put in assuming. You suppose what other folks are contemplating or how they will react to a particular situation. In numerous circumstances we give ourselves stress over assuming how a circumstance will enjoy out. When we really are associated with the predicament we frequently find that all of the anxiousness was for practically nothing. In many instances we find that things really went really easily. Picture how much greater we would come to feel is we were to stop assuming. Just getting activities as they occur and end taking part in out the eventualities ahead of time. The worst element of this is that we appear to engage in out the worst scenarios the most.
Always Do Your Best
Your ideal is heading to modify from minute to second it will be various when you are healthier as opposed to sick. Underneath any circumstance, merely do your ideal and you will stay away from self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret?
Your very best and my very best are likely to be diverse in any offered predicament. If you make every energy in any presented circumstance to do your best then you can constantly really feel excellent about it. Soon after all you cannot count on to do far better than your very best.
These 4 agreements provide a basic way to make your lifestyle much better. They do however just take some energy to actually enact them. It will take getting acutely aware of them in your working day to working day dwelling to make the changes essential. You will locate that your life will go smoother by continuing to use these agreements on a day to working day foundation.
Hello, today we're here with HeatherAsh Amara and we're going to be talking about The Four Agreements. Let's start off with a simple question. What are The Four Agreements? The Four Agreements are from a book by Don Miguel Ruiz. The first agreement is be impeccable with your work. Second agreement, don't take anything personally. Third agreement, don't make any assumptions. And the fourth agreement is to always do your best. What
is an agreement? An agreement is something that we say yes to. So, there are conscious agreements and unconscious agreement. An example of a conscious agreement is "I will at this job for this many hours, for this much pay." And the truth is we make very few conscious agreements in our life. Most of the agreements that we have in our life are unconscious agreements. I think about it as an iceberg. The
tip of the iceberg is the conscious agreements, and underneath is the unconscious agreements which have a lot of power because they're usually attached to a motion. So, what we are learning to do with The Four Agreements is to create four new conscious agreements that we start to use. And what they do is they help us to break the unconscious agreements. So, this Four Agreements, when you apply them
to your life, how do they create change? Breaking these old agreements, what happens? I like to think about it this way, is that whenever we want to create change in our life, we set an intent and we actually are setting a new agreement. So, many people read The Four Agreements and they take the second agreement seems to be very popular, don't take anything personally. Because you can feel, if
I just didn't take anything personally, my life would be so different. So, people say, "Okay, I am never ever going to take anything personally again." And then they walk out the front door, and of course what happens within 10 minutes? You take something personally. But now, you're aware that you just swore you'd never take something personally again, and now you're taking it personally. So, what we do next is
usually judge ourselves. What we want to learn to do with The Four Agreements is to use them knowing that the moment you say I'm going to practice not taking anything personally, what you're probably going to see is the places you are taking things personally. And that will then help you to undo the old agreement that's underneath that. So, it's a way to help us explore to a new
moral code, to help to guide us in our lives. How did you start working with The Four Agreements? I actually had a dream about Don Miguel Ruiz, who's the author. And I met Miguel before there was a book. He was teaching The Four Agreements at that time. But it was many years before the book came out. And I was really blessed to meet him right before he took on
a group of apprentices. And so, I then studied intensely with him for the next six years, meeting with him every month, travelling around the world with him. And then in 2000, he made the decision to disband our group. And while I continue to travel with him, I started teaching with him, I went on to found an organization called the Toltec Center of Creative Intent. That was my desire to
take what I'd learned and bring it to people in a new way. And that had been Miguel's request. He had said, "Everyone, go and make the teachings your own." And that was a really huge gift, is to really explore how could I take The Four Agreements and not keep them as just concepts, but embody them in my life. That's been quite a journey huh? It's been quite the journey. Yes. Did
The Four Agreements give us any kind of meditation practice that you would recommend or awareness practice? There are great awareness practice and they're also a beautiful thing to take into meditation. One of the things that I love is this idea of asking better questions. We ask ourselves questions in such like, "Why am I taking this personally? What's wrong with me? Why haven't I changed this?" And those are not healing-helpful
questions. So, to shift the question of "How can I support myself in not taking this personally? What's the agreement behind this reaction that I'm having?" It's the tone of the voice we're using with our questions. And so, in meditation, we can sit and get quiet and drop that question into our mind, into our being. "How can I not take anything personally? From this gentle place. And then as we're moving in
the world, what I to do with The Four Agreements is if I have a reaction towards something, or if I go into fear, or if my mind is really busy, I'll stop and I'll ask myself which agreement are you going against right now, which one are you not honoring. And I'll see, "Oh, I'm trying to do more than my best" or "Oh, I just made an assumption." And
then with that judgment, I can course correct. Wow. Well, thank you so much for talking to us about this book. If you are interested in learning more about The Four Agreements and how to start applying them in your life, please go to heatherashamara.com or watch some more videos on this awesome YouTube channel.
is an agreement? An agreement is something that we say yes to. So, there are conscious agreements and unconscious agreement. An example of a conscious agreement is "I will at this job for this many hours, for this much pay." And the truth is we make very few conscious agreements in our life. Most of the agreements that we have in our life are unconscious agreements. I think about it as an iceberg. The
tip of the iceberg is the conscious agreements, and underneath is the unconscious agreements which have a lot of power because they're usually attached to a motion. So, what we are learning to do with The Four Agreements is to create four new conscious agreements that we start to use. And what they do is they help us to break the unconscious agreements. So, this Four Agreements, when you apply them
to your life, how do they create change? Breaking these old agreements, what happens? I like to think about it this way, is that whenever we want to create change in our life, we set an intent and we actually are setting a new agreement. So, many people read The Four Agreements and they take the second agreement seems to be very popular, don't take anything personally. Because you can feel, if
I just didn't take anything personally, my life would be so different. So, people say, "Okay, I am never ever going to take anything personally again." And then they walk out the front door, and of course what happens within 10 minutes? You take something personally. But now, you're aware that you just swore you'd never take something personally again, and now you're taking it personally. So, what we do next is
usually judge ourselves. What we want to learn to do with The Four Agreements is to use them knowing that the moment you say I'm going to practice not taking anything personally, what you're probably going to see is the places you are taking things personally. And that will then help you to undo the old agreement that's underneath that. So, it's a way to help us explore to a new
moral code, to help to guide us in our lives. How did you start working with The Four Agreements? I actually had a dream about Don Miguel Ruiz, who's the author. And I met Miguel before there was a book. He was teaching The Four Agreements at that time. But it was many years before the book came out. And I was really blessed to meet him right before he took on
a group of apprentices. And so, I then studied intensely with him for the next six years, meeting with him every month, travelling around the world with him. And then in 2000, he made the decision to disband our group. And while I continue to travel with him, I started teaching with him, I went on to found an organization called the Toltec Center of Creative Intent. That was my desire to
take what I'd learned and bring it to people in a new way. And that had been Miguel's request. He had said, "Everyone, go and make the teachings your own." And that was a really huge gift, is to really explore how could I take The Four Agreements and not keep them as just concepts, but embody them in my life. That's been quite a journey huh? It's been quite the journey. Yes. Did
The Four Agreements give us any kind of meditation practice that you would recommend or awareness practice? There are great awareness practice and they're also a beautiful thing to take into meditation. One of the things that I love is this idea of asking better questions. We ask ourselves questions in such like, "Why am I taking this personally? What's wrong with me? Why haven't I changed this?" And those are not healing-helpful
questions. So, to shift the question of "How can I support myself in not taking this personally? What's the agreement behind this reaction that I'm having?" It's the tone of the voice we're using with our questions. And so, in meditation, we can sit and get quiet and drop that question into our mind, into our being. "How can I not take anything personally? From this gentle place. And then as we're moving in
the world, what I to do with The Four Agreements is if I have a reaction towards something, or if I go into fear, or if my mind is really busy, I'll stop and I'll ask myself which agreement are you going against right now, which one are you not honoring. And I'll see, "Oh, I'm trying to do more than my best" or "Oh, I just made an assumption." And
then with that judgment, I can course correct. Wow. Well, thank you so much for talking to us about this book. If you are interested in learning more about The Four Agreements and how to start applying them in your life, please go to heatherashamara.com or watch some more videos on this awesome YouTube channel.
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