When I 1st study the 4 agreements it appeared that it was such a basic established of policies to live by. I puzzled why every person didn’t reside by these policies and why a person did not publish these principles sooner. Following functioning with these rules I discovered how greatly tough they actually had been to implement. Some have been harder than other people and based on who you are various policies will be harder to use.
I have never regarded as myself to be a liar, other than the minor white lies that are informed in hopes of sparing someone’s thoughts. You will discover that specified elements are so integrated into your life that they are hard to stop.
The 4 Agreements are:
Be Impeccable with your Phrase: Talk with integrity. Say only what you mean. Keep away from utilizing the Phrase to converse in opposition to oneself or to gossip about other folks. Use the electricity of your Term in the direction of truth and really like.
So numerous of us effortlessly set ourselves down or others down. It is commonplace to criticize other folks whether or not it is “that person is a jerk” or a random remark on someone’s seems to be. It is nearly impossible to chat with a household member about the each day events with out gossiping or criticizing someone. We all have our views and we do not hesitate to voice them. If we pay focus to our words it is feasible in excess of time to correct this actions.
Don’t Consider Anything at all Personally
Nothing at all other individuals do is due to the fact of you. What other folks say and do is a projection of their own reality, their personal dream. When you are immune to the viewpoints and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of unnecessary suffering.
It is so simple to consider offense when chatting to individuals. Considering that most folks are not training being impeccable with their term as in the initial settlement they are typically giving their impression about you or a person else. If a person is possessing a poor working day and you face them in your day they will undoubtedly say something to upset you. If you recognize that it is their reality and not yours will take it individually
Don’t Make Assumptions
Uncover the braveness to question inquiries and to express what you actually want. Communicate with other folks as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, unhappiness and drama. With just this one settlement, you can completely rework your existence.
This is potentially the hardest of the four agreements to enact. When you actively try to end assuming you will see that a big element of your day is spent assuming. You presume what others are contemplating or how they will react to a particular scenario. In many situations we give ourselves anxiousness over assuming how a predicament will perform out. When we actually are included with the situation we usually uncover that all of the anxiety was for nothing at all. In several instances we find that things really went quite efficiently. Envision how significantly much better we would come to feel is we ended up to cease assuming. Just using functions as they come and end taking part in out the eventualities ahead of time. The worst element of this is that we look to enjoy out the worst conditions the most.
Always Do Your Ideal
Your ideal is heading to alter from instant to instant it will be distinct when you are healthy as opposed to unwell. Under any circumstance, just do your greatest and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret?
Your very best and my very best are going to be distinct in any presented scenario. If you make each and every energy in any offered circumstance to do your best then you can usually come to feel very good about it. After all you can not assume to do greater than your best.
These four agreements provide a simple way to make your existence much better. They do even so consider some work to really enact them. It will just take getting conscious of them in your working day to working day dwelling to make the adjustments required. You will uncover that your daily life will go smoother by continuing to use these agreements on a working day to day basis.
I have never regarded as myself to be a liar, other than the minor white lies that are informed in hopes of sparing someone’s thoughts. You will discover that specified elements are so integrated into your life that they are hard to stop.
The 4 Agreements are:
Be Impeccable with your Phrase: Talk with integrity. Say only what you mean. Keep away from utilizing the Phrase to converse in opposition to oneself or to gossip about other folks. Use the electricity of your Term in the direction of truth and really like.
So numerous of us effortlessly set ourselves down or others down. It is commonplace to criticize other folks whether or not it is “that person is a jerk” or a random remark on someone’s seems to be. It is nearly impossible to chat with a household member about the each day events with out gossiping or criticizing someone. We all have our views and we do not hesitate to voice them. If we pay focus to our words it is feasible in excess of time to correct this actions.
Don’t Consider Anything at all Personally
Nothing at all other individuals do is due to the fact of you. What other folks say and do is a projection of their own reality, their personal dream. When you are immune to the viewpoints and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of unnecessary suffering.
It is so simple to consider offense when chatting to individuals. Considering that most folks are not training being impeccable with their term as in the initial settlement they are typically giving their impression about you or a person else. If a person is possessing a poor working day and you face them in your day they will undoubtedly say something to upset you. If you recognize that it is their reality and not yours will take it individually
Don’t Make Assumptions
Uncover the braveness to question inquiries and to express what you actually want. Communicate with other folks as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, unhappiness and drama. With just this one settlement, you can completely rework your existence.
This is potentially the hardest of the four agreements to enact. When you actively try to end assuming you will see that a big element of your day is spent assuming. You presume what others are contemplating or how they will react to a particular scenario. In many situations we give ourselves anxiousness over assuming how a predicament will perform out. When we actually are included with the situation we usually uncover that all of the anxiety was for nothing at all. In several instances we find that things really went quite efficiently. Envision how significantly much better we would come to feel is we ended up to cease assuming. Just using functions as they come and end taking part in out the eventualities ahead of time. The worst element of this is that we look to enjoy out the worst conditions the most.
Always Do Your Ideal
Your ideal is heading to alter from instant to instant it will be distinct when you are healthy as opposed to unwell. Under any circumstance, just do your greatest and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret?
Your very best and my very best are going to be distinct in any presented scenario. If you make each and every energy in any offered circumstance to do your best then you can usually come to feel very good about it. After all you can not assume to do greater than your best.
These four agreements provide a simple way to make your existence much better. They do even so consider some work to really enact them. It will just take getting conscious of them in your working day to working day dwelling to make the adjustments required. You will uncover that your daily life will go smoother by continuing to use these agreements on a working day to day basis.
Gondola yourself down the river of wisdom -- it's Toltec time. Hey everybody, you're here to improve your life and your business through books with us and this week's book is: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. Be impeccable with your word Don't take anything personally Don't make assumptions Always do your best Make these four agreements with yourself and realize happiness and what
he refers to as "heaven on earth." This is a wise and powerful book filled with the musings of the Toltecs, an ancient and wise people who devoted themselves to the understanding of life. It's easy to get lost in this book, the profundity is wrapped in such easy language. And yes there is profundity. So, what are three things we can use from this book? We start this worldly journey lost. We do
not pick the language we speak. We don't pick the religion or morality we grow up with. The table manners, cut eat cut or cut cut eat. It continues. Through school, we don't choose what information we're presented with, what our sponge minds get to sop up. We learn customs and socialization from our parents, from our peers and from our TV shows. We are taught what it is to be human. We are
taught what is expected of humans. What life should be like. And as a result, we learn to judge. To judge ourselves and to judge other people. The rules of this social etiquette are trained into us through punishment and reward. We do an action that doesn't fit with the expectation and we receive a punishment. We don't like the punishment, so we avoid actions that are outside expectations. When we meet the
expectations we receive a reward. We like the attention we get when we do things the right way. We do what mom and dad, older siblings, teachers and friends want us to do and we develop a tendency to do what others want to keep getting the rewards and the attention. With the fear of being punished and the fear of not getting the reward, we pretend to be what we
are not, just to please others. To be good enough for someone else, we start acting. "Trying to be good enough for them, we create an image of perfection -- but we don't fit this image, (though we try). But we are never going to be perfect from this point of view and not being perfect, we reject ourselves." "We try to hide ourselves and we pretend to be what we are
not. The result is that we feel inauthentic and wear social masks to keep others from noticing this. And we are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend to be." These problems are all spawned from the agreements we make growing up, without choice and without option. But it's time to reset the agreements and start consciously making the right ones. There are two sources for all
of our people problems. What would go through your head if I saw you on the street and said, "You are stupid." There are two ways to think about this. What am I really saying and what is its impact on you? What I'm really saying, has nothing to do with you. I'm mad, I'm afraid, I'm jealous, I'm sad, etc... You are the excuse for me to get mad and I
get mad because I am dealing with my own fear or uncertainty in some way. I wouldn't say something like that if I were in a better mood. And through the other lens, what is the impact on you. If you take it personally, then maybe you believe you ARE stupid. You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. That's a tough trap to get caught in. Maybe you don't
sing anymore because someone in a bad mood told you to stop singing. Now you have a built in inhibition that directly affects how you feel about a certain aspect of your personality or behavior, because you took what someone said personally, that you shouldn't have. ... And even if they thought they meant it, they couldn't know that about you. They couldn't know if you were really stupid or if
you really couldn't sing, they can only tell from their limited data set they've collected about you. The only person who spends every moment with you is you. You are the only one with all the data about you, so you are the only one who can know the real truth about yourself. So that's one. Don't take things personally. Good, bad, or other, because people not only can't really know you, but
they are also influenced by moods and fear to say things and express their moods. The other source involves making an ass out of you and me. We, as humans, feel the need to understand and explain everything, in order to feel safe. And it's not important if the answer is correct, just the answer itself is necessary. Thus, mass-assumption. If others tell us something, we make assumptions. If they don't tell us
something, we make assumptions. If we hear something we don't understand, we make assumptions for what it means. And the worst part, is our assumptions become our truths. We believe our assumptions, despite the fact that they are speculations. We paint a whole picture of who someone is, how they feel about us and what they meant by their ambiguous comment, brush-stroking our painting with assumption after assumption. The author says, "whenever
we make assumptions, we are asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally and we end up creating a whole big unnecessary drama. All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally." End quote. Take action, do your best and repeat. Take Forrest Gump for example. He didn't have great ideas, but he took action. He was happy because
he always did his best. And he was richly rewarded without expecting any reward at all. And you DO have good ideas. Consider what the other side could look like after you take action and you do your best. If you take action just for the sake of doing it and do your best without expecting a reward, you'll find you enjoy every action that you do. Most people only take action
when they expect a reward and they don't even enjoy the action, that's the reason why they don't do their best. They suffer through work all week, waiting for the weekend. But the weekend is never worth it. Why? What's missing has no physical parameters. It's the work itself that you must throw yourself into and give your best. If you do work for the sake of the reward, you can't enjoy it. If
you do work to do work, you are left with no barrier. And always do your best. Whatever you know it to be. Your best changes. When you wake up, energized in the morning, your best will be better than when you're tired at night. It will be better when you're healthy than when you're sick and it will be better when you're happy as opposed to upset. "If you try too hard to
do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end, you will falter. If you do less than your best you subject yourself to frustrations, self judgment, guilt and regret. But when you do your best, whatever it is in that moment, you don't feel guilty or blame yourself and you have no regrets. If you always do your best, there's no way you can
look down on or judge yourself. And the more you practice doing your best, the better your best will become. Practice makes the master. When you always do your best, you take action and it is doing your best and action that are going to make you feel happy. so... to recap Reset the agreements you have made with yourself - and make some good ones If you don't want any more problems,
stop assuming things and taking things personally and always do your best and take action if you want to feel really good This book starts off with an explanatory preamble, getting you on the same page as him, before you journey together into his solutions. And a lot of it makes sense, and sense in a poetic and symbolic sense, though at some points I was thinking to myself, "...uh, what?" But
I am an idiot. Most of this review was filtered through my way of processing. So you don't get the human domestication, the judge and the victim in our minds and the world is a dream framings that he presents. And lots of talk about magic, which if you take it symbolically, still fits the paradigm. It was deep enough to feel profound while still approachable enough to be practical. There's a
reason why this book has been a bestseller for over eight years. If you want it, get it! If you're not subscribed to Average Optimized, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss next week's video, thanks for watching with us and-- we'll see you next week! bye! Bye!
he refers to as "heaven on earth." This is a wise and powerful book filled with the musings of the Toltecs, an ancient and wise people who devoted themselves to the understanding of life. It's easy to get lost in this book, the profundity is wrapped in such easy language. And yes there is profundity. So, what are three things we can use from this book? We start this worldly journey lost. We do
not pick the language we speak. We don't pick the religion or morality we grow up with. The table manners, cut eat cut or cut cut eat. It continues. Through school, we don't choose what information we're presented with, what our sponge minds get to sop up. We learn customs and socialization from our parents, from our peers and from our TV shows. We are taught what it is to be human. We are
taught what is expected of humans. What life should be like. And as a result, we learn to judge. To judge ourselves and to judge other people. The rules of this social etiquette are trained into us through punishment and reward. We do an action that doesn't fit with the expectation and we receive a punishment. We don't like the punishment, so we avoid actions that are outside expectations. When we meet the
expectations we receive a reward. We like the attention we get when we do things the right way. We do what mom and dad, older siblings, teachers and friends want us to do and we develop a tendency to do what others want to keep getting the rewards and the attention. With the fear of being punished and the fear of not getting the reward, we pretend to be what we
are not, just to please others. To be good enough for someone else, we start acting. "Trying to be good enough for them, we create an image of perfection -- but we don't fit this image, (though we try). But we are never going to be perfect from this point of view and not being perfect, we reject ourselves." "We try to hide ourselves and we pretend to be what we are
not. The result is that we feel inauthentic and wear social masks to keep others from noticing this. And we are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend to be." These problems are all spawned from the agreements we make growing up, without choice and without option. But it's time to reset the agreements and start consciously making the right ones. There are two sources for all
of our people problems. What would go through your head if I saw you on the street and said, "You are stupid." There are two ways to think about this. What am I really saying and what is its impact on you? What I'm really saying, has nothing to do with you. I'm mad, I'm afraid, I'm jealous, I'm sad, etc... You are the excuse for me to get mad and I
get mad because I am dealing with my own fear or uncertainty in some way. I wouldn't say something like that if I were in a better mood. And through the other lens, what is the impact on you. If you take it personally, then maybe you believe you ARE stupid. You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. That's a tough trap to get caught in. Maybe you don't
sing anymore because someone in a bad mood told you to stop singing. Now you have a built in inhibition that directly affects how you feel about a certain aspect of your personality or behavior, because you took what someone said personally, that you shouldn't have. ... And even if they thought they meant it, they couldn't know that about you. They couldn't know if you were really stupid or if
you really couldn't sing, they can only tell from their limited data set they've collected about you. The only person who spends every moment with you is you. You are the only one with all the data about you, so you are the only one who can know the real truth about yourself. So that's one. Don't take things personally. Good, bad, or other, because people not only can't really know you, but
they are also influenced by moods and fear to say things and express their moods. The other source involves making an ass out of you and me. We, as humans, feel the need to understand and explain everything, in order to feel safe. And it's not important if the answer is correct, just the answer itself is necessary. Thus, mass-assumption. If others tell us something, we make assumptions. If they don't tell us
something, we make assumptions. If we hear something we don't understand, we make assumptions for what it means. And the worst part, is our assumptions become our truths. We believe our assumptions, despite the fact that they are speculations. We paint a whole picture of who someone is, how they feel about us and what they meant by their ambiguous comment, brush-stroking our painting with assumption after assumption. The author says, "whenever
we make assumptions, we are asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally and we end up creating a whole big unnecessary drama. All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally." End quote. Take action, do your best and repeat. Take Forrest Gump for example. He didn't have great ideas, but he took action. He was happy because
he always did his best. And he was richly rewarded without expecting any reward at all. And you DO have good ideas. Consider what the other side could look like after you take action and you do your best. If you take action just for the sake of doing it and do your best without expecting a reward, you'll find you enjoy every action that you do. Most people only take action
when they expect a reward and they don't even enjoy the action, that's the reason why they don't do their best. They suffer through work all week, waiting for the weekend. But the weekend is never worth it. Why? What's missing has no physical parameters. It's the work itself that you must throw yourself into and give your best. If you do work for the sake of the reward, you can't enjoy it. If
you do work to do work, you are left with no barrier. And always do your best. Whatever you know it to be. Your best changes. When you wake up, energized in the morning, your best will be better than when you're tired at night. It will be better when you're healthy than when you're sick and it will be better when you're happy as opposed to upset. "If you try too hard to
do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end, you will falter. If you do less than your best you subject yourself to frustrations, self judgment, guilt and regret. But when you do your best, whatever it is in that moment, you don't feel guilty or blame yourself and you have no regrets. If you always do your best, there's no way you can
look down on or judge yourself. And the more you practice doing your best, the better your best will become. Practice makes the master. When you always do your best, you take action and it is doing your best and action that are going to make you feel happy. so... to recap Reset the agreements you have made with yourself - and make some good ones If you don't want any more problems,
stop assuming things and taking things personally and always do your best and take action if you want to feel really good This book starts off with an explanatory preamble, getting you on the same page as him, before you journey together into his solutions. And a lot of it makes sense, and sense in a poetic and symbolic sense, though at some points I was thinking to myself, "...uh, what?" But
I am an idiot. Most of this review was filtered through my way of processing. So you don't get the human domestication, the judge and the victim in our minds and the world is a dream framings that he presents. And lots of talk about magic, which if you take it symbolically, still fits the paradigm. It was deep enough to feel profound while still approachable enough to be practical. There's a
reason why this book has been a bestseller for over eight years. If you want it, get it! If you're not subscribed to Average Optimized, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss next week's video, thanks for watching with us and-- we'll see you next week! bye! Bye!
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