Hello, today we're here with HeatherAsh Amara and we're going to be talking about The Four Agreements. Let's start off with a simple question. What are The Four Agreements? The Four Agreements are from a book by Don Miguel Ruiz. The first agreement is be impeccable with your work. Second agreement, don't take anything personally. Third agreement, don't make any assumptions. And the fourth agreement is to always do your best. What

is an agreement? An agreement is something that we say yes to. So, there are conscious agreements and unconscious agreement. An example of a conscious agreement is "I will at this job for this many hours, for this much pay." And the truth is we make very few conscious agreements in our life. Most of the agreements that we have in our life are unconscious agreements. I think about it as an iceberg. The

tip of the iceberg is the conscious agreements, and underneath is the unconscious agreements which have a lot of power because they're usually attached to a motion. So, what we are learning to do with The Four Agreements is to create four new conscious agreements that we start to use. And what they do is they help us to break the unconscious agreements. So, this Four Agreements, when you apply them

to your life, how do they create change? Breaking these old agreements, what happens? I like to think about it this way, is that whenever we want to create change in our life, we set an intent and we actually are setting a new agreement. So, many people read The Four Agreements and they take the second agreement seems to be very popular, don't take anything personally. Because you can feel, if

I just didn't take anything personally, my life would be so different. So, people say, "Okay, I am never ever going to take anything personally again." And then they walk out the front door, and of course what happens within 10 minutes? You take something personally. But now, you're aware that you just swore you'd never take something personally again, and now you're taking it personally. So, what we do next is

usually judge ourselves. What we want to learn to do with The Four Agreements is to use them knowing that the moment you say I'm going to practice not taking anything personally, what you're probably going to see is the places you are taking things personally. And that will then help you to undo the old agreement that's underneath that. So, it's a way to help us explore to a new

moral code, to help to guide us in our lives. How did you start working with The Four Agreements? I actually had a dream about Don Miguel Ruiz, who's the author. And I met Miguel before there was a book. He was teaching The Four Agreements at that time. But it was many years before the book came out. And I was really blessed to meet him right before he took on

a group of apprentices. And so, I then studied intensely with him for the next six years, meeting with him every month, travelling around the world with him. And then in 2000, he made the decision to disband our group. And while I continue to travel with him, I started teaching with him, I went on to found an organization called the Toltec Center of Creative Intent. That was my desire to

take what I'd learned and bring it to people in a new way. And that had been Miguel's request. He had said, "Everyone, go and make the teachings your own." And that was a really huge gift, is to really explore how could I take The Four Agreements and not keep them as just concepts, but embody them in my life. That's been quite a journey huh? It's been quite the journey. Yes. Did

The Four Agreements give us any kind of meditation practice that you would recommend or awareness practice? There are great awareness practice and they're also a beautiful thing to take into meditation. One of the things that I love is this idea of asking better questions. We ask ourselves questions in such like, "Why am I taking this personally? What's wrong with me? Why haven't I changed this?" And those are not healing-helpful

questions. So, to shift the question of "How can I support myself in not taking this personally? What's the agreement behind this reaction that I'm having?" It's the tone of the voice we're using with our questions. And so, in meditation, we can sit and get quiet and drop that question into our mind, into our being. "How can I not take anything personally? From this gentle place. And then as we're moving in

the world, what I to do with The Four Agreements is if I have a reaction towards something, or if I go into fear, or if my mind is really busy, I'll stop and I'll ask myself which agreement are you going against right now, which one are you not honoring. And I'll see, "Oh, I'm trying to do more than my best" or "Oh, I just made an assumption." And

then with that judgment, I can course correct. Wow. Well, thank you so much for talking to us about this book. If you are interested in learning more about The Four Agreements and how to start applying them in your life, please go to heatherashamara.com or watch some more videos on this awesome YouTube channel.

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Gondola yourself down the river of wisdom -- it's Toltec time. Hey everybody, you're here to improve your life and your business through books with us and this week's book is: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. Be impeccable with your word Don't take anything personally Don't make assumptions Always do your best Make these four agreements with yourself and realize happiness and what

he refers to as "heaven on earth." This is a wise and powerful book filled with the musings of the Toltecs, an ancient and wise people who devoted themselves to the understanding of life. It's easy to get lost in this book, the profundity is wrapped in such easy language. And yes there is profundity. So, what are three things we can use from this book? We start this worldly journey lost. We do

not pick the language we speak. We don't pick the religion or morality we grow up with. The table manners, cut eat cut or cut cut eat. It continues. Through school, we don't choose what information we're presented with, what our sponge minds get to sop up. We learn customs and socialization from our parents, from our peers and from our TV shows. We are taught what it is to be human. We are

taught what is expected of humans. What life should be like. And as a result, we learn to judge. To judge ourselves and to judge other people. The rules of this social etiquette are trained into us through punishment and reward. We do an action that doesn't fit with the expectation and we receive a punishment. We don't like the punishment, so we avoid actions that are outside expectations. When we meet the

expectations we receive a reward. We like the attention we get when we do things the right way. We do what mom and dad, older siblings, teachers and friends want us to do and we develop a tendency to do what others want to keep getting the rewards and the attention. With the fear of being punished and the fear of not getting the reward, we pretend to be what we

are not, just to please others. To be good enough for someone else, we start acting. "Trying to be good enough for them, we create an image of perfection -- but we don't fit this image, (though we try). But we are never going to be perfect from this point of view and not being perfect, we reject ourselves." "We try to hide ourselves and we pretend to be what we are

not. The result is that we feel inauthentic and wear social masks to keep others from noticing this. And we are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend to be." These problems are all spawned from the agreements we make growing up, without choice and without option. But it's time to reset the agreements and start consciously making the right ones. There are two sources for all

of our people problems. What would go through your head if I saw you on the street and said, "You are stupid." There are two ways to think about this. What am I really saying and what is its impact on you? What I'm really saying, has nothing to do with you. I'm mad, I'm afraid, I'm jealous, I'm sad, etc... You are the excuse for me to get mad and I

get mad because I am dealing with my own fear or uncertainty in some way. I wouldn't say something like that if I were in a better mood. And through the other lens, what is the impact on you. If you take it personally, then maybe you believe you ARE stupid. You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. That's a tough trap to get caught in. Maybe you don't

sing anymore because someone in a bad mood told you to stop singing. Now you have a built in inhibition that directly affects how you feel about a certain aspect of your personality or behavior, because you took what someone said personally, that you shouldn't have. ... And even if they thought they meant it, they couldn't know that about you. They couldn't know if you were really stupid or if

you really couldn't sing, they can only tell from their limited data set they've collected about you. The only person who spends every moment with you is you. You are the only one with all the data about you, so you are the only one who can know the real truth about yourself. So that's one. Don't take things personally. Good, bad, or other, because people not only can't really know you, but

they are also influenced by moods and fear to say things and express their moods. The other source involves making an ass out of you and me. We, as humans, feel the need to understand and explain everything, in order to feel safe. And it's not important if the answer is correct, just the answer itself is necessary. Thus, mass-assumption. If others tell us something, we make assumptions. If they don't tell us

something, we make assumptions. If we hear something we don't understand, we make assumptions for what it means. And the worst part, is our assumptions become our truths. We believe our assumptions, despite the fact that they are speculations. We paint a whole picture of who someone is, how they feel about us and what they meant by their ambiguous comment, brush-stroking our painting with assumption after assumption. The author says, "whenever

we make assumptions, we are asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally and we end up creating a whole big unnecessary drama. All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally." End quote. Take action, do your best and repeat. Take Forrest Gump for example. He didn't have great ideas, but he took action. He was happy because

he always did his best. And he was richly rewarded without expecting any reward at all. And you DO have good ideas. Consider what the other side could look like after you take action and you do your best. If you take action just for the sake of doing it and do your best without expecting a reward, you'll find you enjoy every action that you do. Most people only take action

when they expect a reward and they don't even enjoy the action, that's the reason why they don't do their best. They suffer through work all week, waiting for the weekend. But the weekend is never worth it. Why? What's missing has no physical parameters. It's the work itself that you must throw yourself into and give your best. If you do work for the sake of the reward, you can't enjoy it. If

you do work to do work, you are left with no barrier. And always do your best. Whatever you know it to be. Your best changes. When you wake up, energized in the morning, your best will be better than when you're tired at night. It will be better when you're healthy than when you're sick and it will be better when you're happy as opposed to upset. "If you try too hard to

do more than your best, you will spend more energy than is needed and in the end, you will falter. If you do less than your best you subject yourself to frustrations, self judgment, guilt and regret. But when you do your best, whatever it is in that moment, you don't feel guilty or blame yourself and you have no regrets. If you always do your best, there's no way you can

look down on or judge yourself. And the more you practice doing your best, the better your best will become. Practice makes the master. When you always do your best, you take action and it is doing your best and action that are going to make you feel happy. so... to recap Reset the agreements you have made with yourself - and make some good ones If you don't want any more problems,

stop assuming things and taking things personally and always do your best and take action if you want to feel really good This book starts off with an explanatory preamble, getting you on the same page as him, before you journey together into his solutions. And a lot of it makes sense, and sense in a poetic and symbolic sense, though at some points I was thinking to myself, "...uh, what?" But

I am an idiot. Most of this review was filtered through my way of processing. So you don't get the human domestication, the judge and the victim in our minds and the world is a dream framings that he presents. And lots of talk about magic, which if you take it symbolically, still fits the paradigm. It was deep enough to feel profound while still approachable enough to be practical. There's a

reason why this book has been a bestseller for over eight years. If you want it, get it! If you're not subscribed to Average Optimized, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss next week's video, thanks for watching with us and-- we'll see you next week! bye! Bye!

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uh... our wonderful uh... video uh... technician Larry Hearn uh... tells me that there are nine foreign countries tuning into our sermons on YouTube. yeah... and from states throughout uh... states throughout the united states so uh... welcome to all of you we are so glad you are here with us all right. you know i actually meant to ask uh... don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. how he wanted to be introduced uh...

before the first service that i forgot and then i got busy during the second service and forgot then too, so here's the thing thank you book uh... if don miguel for agreements and you know we've worked very frequently with for agreements here and it's really leveled a lot of our lives to understand how those four agreements work in our lives and so that's good that that's good i'm glad you know all

that that's important but here's what happened researched first with my heart anyway i have never listened to anybody in my life a message is curl up that song set it up so beautifully sewing join me in welcoming don how are you my neighbors lives just up the road my name is junior it's just the name described as the campaign that is me and we have to cancel which is expert uh... i was sitting in the uh... the teen programs director's office uh... between

services and i saw a little for poster about buying some talking about everything's energy and that if you want to change the or as a tourist tune into a frequency and change just happens because that's for energy to us as knots philosophy is it's physics alone dot i love it so much of this afternoon reading it because it's true and physics one when the first lessons there needs to be an energy to move the market and optic only moves burst

of energy and a look at my hand this is an issue we've ever seen someone pass away there's a moment where given that there laying on the phone then on the bed known my uncle passed away from it laying the benefits all my cousins amounts in just sitting there he was there and then even though he was unconscious my uncle was there and then when that lasts beeping sound my last breath came an interesting thing

happened my uncle went from being this living being and his body change into an object if you've ever seen anyone pass away you know that interesting moment happened solves annual this individual needs it becomes an object like this which means for as long as there is life i am this living being that moves responded this is the energy so when we're holding appeal for p like the way hold my son and my daughter in my arms that moment

of watching came in her breathing holding with such because and falling in love so much because i can't see this beautiful being being the pure potential like he she can't be computer compute bowling b our carpenter speaking practices images without attention with tension to going any direction in life and just let the child that's my some of my daughter i was once a month for others arms as well my mother's arms and i thought the same thing of

course as life programs you know we go through life we learn things and this potential starts to slowdown and clothes off based on what we know base from what we especially those spots there are limiting and also mark choices that seem to the binge especially if i can be to the point where i'm so attached to a belief but the only thing i can see is one choice one thing and i've got no other choices in life for

students like that completely forgetting balanced though that shop even though i'm thirty seven years old i am still that same potential but i was and still am to this very day because i am life the question as one that i forget when their effort at this moment when they forget somewhere across online of my life unearned unremitting a limiting farts i cant i can't persons those spots that limit my full potential i'm not good enough i'm not worthy enough

i'm not for as long as there is large this body the truth is everything his poss because there is life in me there is life are fixed brushing of plot aren't clear intent festival to dance all the required to do that for me as to say yes and to do it in front of a here which i have units hello everyone high amps you're a potential because although a party to some things to say yes with every outside gets

up there will be manifested for every known something wants if you see it from that point of view yes and no as the manifestation of my intent is the way i'd use this energy called life are more because they say yes by saying no dodge i'll not be done my nose just passed powerful as mice because of the core of it is that same energy that allows me to create allows me to love that allows me to

say uh... fox is a better powerful thing indeed because they're not thought not believe an idea allows me to perceive life and based on what i perceive arctic action i say yes based on what i see so in my field just of what i know there are believes allow me to enjoy life and then there's believes that says i am not worth it there we go outside right now and we looked at the

buildings what we will see is the buildings that west sacramento said yes to everyone was involved in constructing these buildings said yes what you do not see other buildings that west sacramental said no to they do not exist energy was not used to create in that way if you can understand that uh... between us between us the dream of the planet community that is awesome when we say yes some film will

be done something what we've done if i say no and that you can see it out there with these buildings better internal level in a personal level out the route of every believe we have there is are yes there's nothing in our belief system that we said no to we've said yes to a negativity we've said yes to part of the city we've said yes to these things if i look myself

in the mir and i see my own reflection at this is a moment of choice and harkensee life through the eyes of conditional love or the eyes of unconditional in this form i see my own reflection every child as a form of punishment for not living up to an expectation of what supposed to be and i'm saying yes two dots those conditions perfection is something that is free from flaws yet what is supplies based on the green so so we

can see life in these two ways our choices are limited to these two things in one hand i can see perfection through the eyes of the judge meaning conditional love for the reward for living up to an expectation is my own self-worth i am worthy of my own muppet by live up to this expectation which means every time we do not live off to this expectation i would just myself for this flaw an example i

am bonino ruiz ching and i am the song of bone meal release i don't take things personal hai dole make assumptions are always do my best and uh... or biblical with work you know i even away this community dude if i could even imagine what supposed to be mean don riegle raised this perfectly don't take things personal always do your best be impact or the word on the consumption send be skeptical but willing to

listen there's the for fun ever have a live up to this expectation that self judgment that punishment which means i have turned the four agreements into the four conditions of myself acceptance before conditions of our personal freedom in order to be free i have to be used for things which means if i ever fall short of it there's the fall and i can judge myself punish myself with that softer schmidt and i'm saying

you stand this is perfection through the eyes of the tujhe expression of conditional love i love you is i can all the love myself if i finish college which means from she come from a fresh mint then the last four years of me rejecting myself until unable to say i graduate college or i kept my money like taht this wife or i got this never living for the present always looking for

the future for myself acceptance it's a great motivator to treat base intact and ischaemic to look at it that you but you never catch exchange it's always continues the evolving as as soon as you accomplish double within a minute or seven seconds or a week later there's another thing i have to accomplish because life continues life didn't stop right there i'd continue going and going and going and if we know it to motivate ourselves to

that condition allows then were always finding that ourself acceptance is somewhere in the future never in this person format but if i have the other choice of unconditional love this expression of perfection through the eyes pa profession to the eyes of life is constantly involving constantly changing constantly moving forward wallace truth a hundred years of those no longer the truth now house changed and always evolving and always growing i'm always learning and because the past doesn't exist anymore they don't exist

in my mind and i can't go in time to change decision yes i can think of this should have been this could've have more all these things but where however many of those ideas i will never go back there and change actually ps the future does exist is the consequence of the traces i make right now which means the only truth that exist there's this very present moment and that is

very pressing moment is the only place i can take action i can express my intent which means the only truth that exists is this true right now i adam perfect because i'm alive and i'm always evolving i'm always growing before agreements from this point of view by justin instruments i'm saying yes that's what makes an agreement all use this second instrument imagine your belief system being the tool shed and you everything you've ever learned isn't instrument that

when life it's press in that moment and your required at this particular too he going to you to assure you grab it you use it and you put it back because life no longer needs it but it's ready for me to use at the root of every single one there is that yes so the choice comes down when i look at myself in the mir blair love myself conditionally or do i love myself unconditionally which

means i'd set myself or who i am uh... this very moment flaws and all dislike that symbol the represents that whole there is colluded the risk that i have the potential of fink in those negative thoughts and i have the potential thinking in those positive thoughts but overall it is the whole over me and at this very moment it is mike shuster and i'm free to say yes to the negativity and i'm free to

say yes up positivity insane alter the negativity that is my free expression and i can create it and that's my free will who i am what i am at this very moment that that the holland seeing myself so the ions of the judge of that conditional love where i am always judge in myself for not being what i'm supposed to be image of perfection or i'm race myself aspire acting this very moment f i'd haven't learned how to be implica

would my word that's fine because that's the truth at this very moment or i'm got this little that and my eric stinks i was pissed one in the middle that's me this is me minute tents which is the expression of that yes and no how well use that energy is based on this chillax love myself and when i say yes to that and i say yes to log in you unconditionally saying yes to loving me saying

yes to loving you and saying yes to loving cod unconditionally because we are the expression of dot love and this with me with rate history yes uh... uh... worthy of mine dot at this moment of my most difficult times in the mail this hardship and the middle of this negativity uh... uh... worthy because that is the moral era that's going to move change me push forward with passion not because i have to but because high wanted change from the point

of view accepting myself is completely different from changing from the conditions of love when a change based not condition that characters always elusive and changing because i have to when i accept myself or who i am out this very moment change starts with the very first thing is except myself or who are by m and change help and from there everything staffing because time always dot point of origin nam always that ending point instead of looking for mine acceptance somewhere

down the feature there we go back to the example of college every single step of the way i am worthy of them because every moment i'm alive and complete the online completely free to love with the freedom of life to me to you race it's gone yes islam and everyone one of us expresses into own way these symbols right here all represent at of that lol but each one expresses love for god because is the expression of life saying thank you and uh... as like having different languages each

one of the religions speaks the same you can find that same laugh bud always comes down to that choice at a personal level too i love myself conditionally or do i love myself unconditionally that choice will shifts the way i see life for us for as long as i'm alive everything as possible an expert expressed by me saying yes i will take the step thank you i was just after straying the workshop we're about to have after

the service at one o'clock as a three hours workshop based on the five levels of attachment the book is base or not question delight control knowledge or just lost control me and i know you stick sample about flower awareness is like a flower was completely open a level one the answers all right among live regardless of what i know a level two preference i have an awareness fed-up of my authentic self that on am life and only use

the largest in instrument survive to manifest to create and when the moment is over electable because i never lost awareness and it goes like this one intern high level three identity i'll use knowledge to identify who i am and what i am but when the moment passes the stuff too little too cosplay right there a level four internalization knowledge gives me the rules and conditions by which spy love myself in live my life take things personally domestic

it myself at level five when if i was completely close of fanaticism knowledge has complete control of me letting go is an after self-love live progress as we go up and down up and down up and down but always coming down to that contrast between conditional an unconditional love the five levels of attachment aren instrument that i can use to become aware of where i'm at at this very moment and i doubt very

moment i can make a choice too i stay are going to go that's what the workshop is about and one more thing before i finish of course i have to ask my wife bottom-up last a favor years ago my grandmother who is the spirit of the who passed away folks for five years ago she baptized both my son and my daughter so in the eyes of god richly about this but my

brother asme i want you to find at church to baptize them and i haven't found single place i found it tanya tucker's high kids on if

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During all the years we grow up, we make countless agreements with ourselves with society, with everyone around us. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. These agreements are telling us who we are, how to behave, what we believe. They're telling us what we know. But who tells us if what we know is the truth? The truth is all around us, but

with all the knowledge stored in our mind, we no longer see the truth. We only see our own knowledge; we only see our own story. When we're domesticated, all that knowledge we accumulate is just like a wall of fog that doesn't allow us to perceive what really is. We become blinded by all those false beliefs in our mind. Our belief system is just like a mirror that only shows

us what we believe. With all that fog, with all that reflection, we cannot see what we truly are. We cannot see that we're not free. There's something inside us that longs to be free. It's always telling us, "This is not who I really am, This is not what I really want." We're no longer free to be who we really are because our faith, our power of creation is trapped by

the story of what we should be. Humans overeat, abuse alcohol, and take drugs just to avoid their own story -- all that distorted knowledge in their heads. Some people suffer from so much emotional pain that they decide to take their own lives. That's what lies can do to any of us. We try to escape from the self-judgment, the guilt, the blame, the punishment, but we can't escape from our own

thoughts. You see the problem is not really knowledge. The problem is believing in a distortion of knowledge, and that is what we call a lie. Lies lead us to limitations in our lives, to needless suffering and drama. The truth leads us to our authenticity, to happiness. We are born to perceive the truth, but our brains learn to interpret everything we perceive according to the meaning we give to every word, according

to the structure of our language, according to all the knowledge we have stored in our mind. Everything we perceive is being filtered through our entire belief system, and the result of interpreting everything we perceive by using everything we believe is our virtual world. All humans are artists, and our greatest masterpiece of art is the use of a language to create an entire reality within our mind. The human

mind is nothing but a virtual reality. It isn't real. What's real is truth for all of us, but the virtual reality is our personal creation, it's our art, and it's only truth for each one of us. If we can begin to understand what the human mind is, and what the human mind does, we can begin to separate reality from our virtual reality, or pure perception, which is truth, from

our story, which is art. With this awareness, we take a big step in our own evolution because now we can take responsibility for our creation. We no longer blame anyone else for all the lies or distortions in our story, for anything that makes us suffer in life. The story of you is everything you know and believe about you. If you don't like what you believe about yourself, if

there's drama and suffering in your story, and you're not enjoying your creation, you can change it. It's your story it's your art. Words are your paintbrush, and your life is the canvas. What you create depends on how you use the word. When you learn to use the word with awareness, you become a better artist, and when you learn to be impeccable with your word, your story becomes a masterpiece of

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Are you happy with the life you are living? Do you greet each day with gratitude, simply for the gift of being alive? For most of us, the answer is not a resounding yes. Intuitively, we feel that our lives could be fuller, happier, more meaningful… but where do we begin? Let’s begin by exploring the wisdom behind four simple agreements that have the power to transform

your life to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love. The Four Agreements are most accurately described as a way of life or code of conduct, and they’re universal in their appeal. Millions of people from all walks of life have used these principles to create a better life: Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. And always do your best. Why have so

many people embraced The Four Agreements? Because they work! By practicing these principles, we immediately begin to experience more joy and less suffering. As humans, we cannot avoid all suffering. We’re going to suffer physical pain when we are ill or injured. We’re going to suffer emotional pain when we lose someone we love. But there’s another kind of suffering that we can avoid. It’s the emotional suffering we experience as

a result of conflict with other people, and conflict within ourselves. It’s the suffering we experience because we believe things that aren’t even true, because we make assumptions, we take them personally, and we blurt out words that we later regret. This kind of suffering is needless, and yet most of us experience it throughout most of our lives.   Have you ever been wide awake in the middle of the

night, reliving an unpleasant confrontation with a co-worker? You would like to get a good night’s sleep, but your mind is spinning out of control. Soon you’re feeling guilty about an off-handed comment you made to a friend. Then you begin to worry about your relationship, your finances, your health, or a host of other nagging concerns. Have you ever over-indulged in food, alcohol, or drugs to avoid facing unpleasant feelings or

circumstances? You try to escape from your worries and concerns, your self-judgments and guilt. But how can you escape from your own thoughts? Have you ever experienced the uneasy feeling that you don’t measure up to society’s standards of beauty or behavior? Have you ever judged yourself for not being smart enough or talented enough, pretty or handsome enough, thin or fit enough, successful or rich enough? All of these ideas

and beliefs are rooted in fear. They limit your life, deplete your energy, and contribute to needless suffering. There’s a better way to live… The Four Agreements lead you to stop judging – mainly yourself – and to start practicing another way of life. They have the ability to break thousands of fear-based beliefs and agreements that lead to suffering and drama in your life. They transform your life by

changing the way you communicate not only with other people, but more importantly with yourself. With practice, The Four Agreements help you to recover the real you, your authentic self, and there is nothing more liberating than to be the real you.

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You and I never had the choice of learning our first language It was decided upon by our elders and the society we grew up in which dictated our learning process These same people created a material frame within us that forced us to become a copy of their beliefs rather than our own individual person This is the process of human domestication, where we were

molded into a specific being by our elders and society at large We were domesticated the same way that many other animals were domesticated, through a system of reward and punishment This same structure constructed a belief system by rewarding us when we did what someone else expected us to do, and punished us when we didn’t The book of law that governs us became the product of everyone

else’s ideals and with that came the long term consequence of self judgement and misery This self-judgement emerged from the perfect image implanted in our minds from the beliefs of everyone else while we were growing up. This is what the Four Agreements intends to demolish To get rid of the shackles implemented in our mind through the process of domestication The self-judgement that’s been fostered within ourselves with the

blessing of society We’ve lost the innate ability as a child where we weren’t afraid to be ourselves, where the acceptance of ourselves wasn’t clouded by the fog of everyone else’s belief system The Four Agreements are as follows: The First Agreement is to be mindful of your word Your word is a powerful force that is used as a communication tool to create a gratifying experience or an unpleasant

one The mind is a fertile place where even the simplest things can manifest itself and grow quickly Your word can be implanted within someone or even yourself, leading to breaking a belief or making a new one Language is one of man kind’s most important creations that no other species on this planet is able to match Use your word and your language to spread happiness and peace, not

gossip or evil intentions The Second Agreement is to never take things personally When someone gets angry at you or says something insulting, don’t take it personally It’s about them, not you They’re using their word to project their insecurities and beliefs upon you The reason many people take things personally is because they agree with them If someone calls you stupid and you’re hurt, it’s because you probably believed what they

said to you We as humans are inherently selfish, we focus on ourselves even in situations where we may not be the focal point Because of that, we tend to take things very personally, but this is not the case The way someone uses their word is a reflection of their belief system and not yours The Third Agreement is to never make assumptions Assumptions set us up for suffering because

it gives us a false sense of understanding Think back to a time when you were driving and was cut off by another vehicle Your reaction was probably to assume that the other driver was a jerk who had no decency for other vehicles on the road However, this driver could’ve been in an emergency or could have been trying to reach someone in a hospital The fact is, you

made an assumption about that person which caused you to feel anger and frustration at that moment which could have been avoided The Fourth Agreement is to always do your best Doing your best means letting go of the past and focusing on your current dreams One of the biggest barriers to our happiness is inaction You might be sitting at your computer wasting away wishing things would be better That’s

NOT doing your best You’re too afraid to take the risk to be happy and apply yourself If you did everything you could do to achieve happiness, you’ll look back at yourself in the future and say “I did my best” because you did everything you could to achieve it And one of the most effective motivators for doing your best is Death It may sound morbid, but Death TEACHES

us to live in the moment and not in the past so that we can use the present to be happy and not dwell on issues that have already happened It’s a waste of energy, time and effort to focus on past events as it creates nothing but misery as you try to do your best and become a free individual But until then, the truth is, we

aren’t free We aren’t free because we’ve been shackled into a belief system that we never had any control over We’re not free because we spend our waking hours trying to please everyone else And believe it or not, the best example of someone who’s spiritually free… are kids! They don’t care about the past, they don’t care about what other people think about them, they don’t self-judge or have

a stifling belief system like you and I do; they only live in the moment. The fact is, we need to be aware that we aren’t free in OR-DER to become free The art of transformation is to become aware of the limiting factors surrounding us and identifying what you need to change so you can adopt the Four Agreements in place of those old beliefs You know what

you want You’re conscious of the things that make you happy and the actions you need to take in order to become a free person You could change your life right now by being mindful of your word, not taking things personally, never making assumptions and always doing your best These are the Four Agreements

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the first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. if you insult someone you're not only making a single person feel bad he's going to walk around affecting more people with that negativity. your word has more power than you think it can cause a chain reaction you can use it to lift people up or bring them down. you can choose to spread hatred with it

by critizying and gossiping. or you could emanate positivity and infuse the people around you with inspiration. don't take anything personally that is the second agreement. let's say you have long hair and i came up to you and said: "hey dude you should get a haircut, you look like a caveman" now the reason why you shouldn't take it personally is because i'm analysing your looks from what i believe how

most people should look like. if your looks do not match what i believe is right, what's pleasing for me i'll try to correct you so you could fit in my reality. and i know alot of people who suffer from this disease. they walk around trying to fix people to reorganize their reality so they could feel at ease with themselves. there is absolutely nothing wrong with you it's their problem. they must

train themselves to appreciate people for who they are. rather, than correct people to meet their own needs and expectations. the third agreement is to stop making assumptions. you assume that a person shares the same feelings for you but when you find out that they don't, you're shocked. all because you're presuming things to happen. or let's say you're supposed to meet up with your girlfriend when she's 15 minutes late you

begin imagining things "oh i bet she's cheating on me now" and when she finally arrives you start conflict based on illogical assumptions. so stop making these stupid assumptions because in the end most of them will turn out to be wrong causing unecessary stress. the fourth agreement: always do your best. if you're too tired to work on a project at least do something about it before you go to sleep. otherwise you'll

feel guilty for not taking action at all. do your best at any given situation even it's 1% it's better than nothing. you won't be having any regrets because you know deep down that you did what you could and that's the most important part. so under any circumstance, always do your best.

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BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD. THAT IS THE FIRST AGREEMENT. Stop gossiping, complaining, and criticizing. Your word is one of the most powerful tools you have. When was the last time you used it to bring someone up instead of gossip? When was the last time you used it to put value out into the world instead of complaining and criticizing the person who didn’t? Practice being

impeccable with your word. THE SECOND AGREEMENT IS: DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. Imagine a person who hates books watches one of my videos. What’s his comment going to look like? Now imagine that same person in two years; this time he’s gone through a major life transformation and loves reading books. What’s his comment going to look like now? But, notice how my video is the same in both cases. How

people treat you is a projection of who they are. That is why it doesn’t make sense to ever take anything personally. THE THIRD AGREEMENT IS: DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS. If you’re in a leadership position, you will lose all respect when something doesn’t get done the way it’s supposed to, and instead of having the courage and skill to communicate, you just assume things and start treating people like trash. If

you had asked, who knows, you might have actually found out that the person is going through a divorce and your little task isn’t really his number one priority right now. Build up the skill and the courage to communicate, and you will easily turn hatred towards you into loyalty and respect. THE FINAL AGREEMENT IS: ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST. Your best is going to change from moment to moment but

under any circumstance, simply do your best. Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, but if we simply do our best, we can avoid all the unnecessary self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret. These are the four agreements that I constantly break, but when I do, I just say, “Okay, I broke the agreement of being impeccable with my word. I will start all over again. Today I will be impeccable

with my word, I will not take anything personally, I will not make assumptions, and I will do my best.”

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What you are seeing and hearing right now is nothing but a dream. You’re dreaming right now in this moment. You’re dreaming with the brain awake. Before we were born the humans before us created a big outside dream that we will call society’s dream, or the dream of the planet. The dream of the planet includes all of society’s rules, its beliefs, its laws, its religions, different

cultures and ways to be, its governments, schools, social events, and holidays. The outside dream has so many rules that when a new human is born, we hook the child’s attention and introduce these rules into his or her mind. As children, we didn’t have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet via other

humans. I call this process the domestication of humans. We trust what we believe, and our beliefs set us up for suffering. In the dream of the planet, it is normal for humans to suffer, to live in fear, and to create emotional dramas. Our personal dream can also become an ongoing nightmare where we suffer and live in a state of fear. But we don’t need to dream a nightmare. It

is possible to enjoy a pleasant dream. There are thousands of agreements you have made with yourself, with other people, with God, with society, with your parents, with your spouse, with your children. But the most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave. One single agreement is not such a problem,

but we have many agreements that make us suffer, that make us fail in life. If you want to live a life of joy and fulfillment, you have to find the courage to break those agreements that are fear-based and claim your personal power. When we’re finally ready to change our agreements, there are four very powerful agreements that will help us break those agreements that come from fear and deplete

our energy. You need a very strong will in order to adopt The Four Agreements. But if you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing.

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